Since moving to Texas, I’ve learned something humbling about lawns: weeds don’t wait. When I’m hyper-diligent—spraying, watching, staying on top of it—everything looks fine. But the second I’m less than diligent, it’s like the yard flips overnight. Boom. Crabgrass and weeds are everywhere, twice as hard to get rid of, like they took on a life of their own. And as frustrating as it is, I’m starting to see a lesson in it: weeds are feedback—a reminder that steady, consistent care matters more than occasional bursts of effort. In fact, if we pay attention, weeds are feedback about the condition of our lawn and our habits.
As much as I wish it weren’t true, it’s a pretty spot-on picture of how everyday stress sneaks up on me. Similarly, when stress shows up unexpectedly in your life, try to remember that those weeds are also valuable feedback that something just needs tending.
Here’s the funny thing: my “weeds” aren’t big, dramatic problems. No kids at home. Bills are paid. I love my wife. My Church calling is a blessing. Life is honestly good. But sometimes, when I’m not paying attention—especially around lunchtime—I realize that weeds can serve as feedback, making me aware that stress is starting to creep in even when things seem fine.
When “weeds” feel like failure
This is the part that hits me the most: I don’t just feel stressed—I start interpreting the stress. I start telling myself a story like:
- “If I were more faithful, I’d be calmer.”
- “If I were more disciplined, I wouldn’t be like this.”
- “If my life is this good, why can’t I handle normal stuff?”
This is where the lawn analogy hits home for me. It’s easy to see weeds and think, “Well, I must be a terrible homeowner.” It’s just as easy to see stress and think, “I must be a lousy disciple.” Noticing that weeds are giving feedback helps me judge myself a little less harshly.
But weeds don’t mean you’re hopeless. They just mean you’re dealing with real life—sun, soil, seasons, and the simple fact that weeds are just part of the deal. Essentially, if we keep our perspective, weeds act as honest feedback on our gardening and on life in general.
Weeds Are Feedback
The Book of Mormon backs that up in a surprisingly tender way. Weeds don’t have to mean you’re failing—they often just show you where care is needed most. In Jacob 5, the master of the vineyard notices his olive tree starting to struggle, and his response isn’t disgust or disappointment—it’s patient, hands-on help: “I will prune it, and dig about it, and nourish it… and it perish not” (Jacob 5:4).
That’s a totally different voice than stress usually uses. Stress says, “You’re blowing it.” The Lord says, “Let’s work the ground. Let’s strengthen what’s still alive. Let’s nourish this until it grows again.”
A few verses later, the master says something that completely undercuts the “weeds as failure” mindset:
“It grieveth me that I should lose this tree…” (Jacob 5:11)
He’s not rolling His eyes at the tree’s problems. He cares. He’s invested. He keeps showing up and working with it. And perhaps, like the way weeds are feedback in our yards, the Lord is just encouraging our care and attention.
And the allegory even describes what it feels like when stress and distractions really do start to take over:
“The wild branches have grown and have overrun the roots…” (Jacob 5:37)
If you’ve ever had one of those days where the little things just take over—worry, mental static, irritability, tension—then you know exactly what “overrun” feels like. The good news is, in Jacob 5, being overrun isn’t a death sentence. It just means the tree needs some care, not a guilt trip. Ultimately, seeing weeds as feedback reminds us to be more compassionate with ourselves and nurture what matters most.
Why midday is prime time for stress to spread
Midday is when a lot of us hit that invisible wall. Maybe not physically, but mentally and emotionally. By then, you’ve already made a thousand tiny decisions and handled people, problems, and expectations. That’s when the little stresses start acting like crabgrass: they spread fast, get tangled up, and are way harder to pull out once they settle in. In a sense, weeds are feedback here too, showing when it’s time for us to slow down and regroup.
King Benjamin’s counsel helps me stay out of shame about that:
“It is not requisite that a man should run faster than he has strength… therefore, all things must be done in order.” (Mosiah 4:27)
That’s not a free pass to slack off. It’s just a reminder to be wise about your pace. When stress piles up, weeds—serving as useful feedback—guide us to adjust our efforts and find balance.
The spiritual version of “spraying consistently”
Jesus’s pattern for staying steady is simple:
“Watch and pray…” (Matthew 26:41)
“Watch and pray always…” (3 Nephi 18:15)
And Doctrine and Covenants puts a promise on it:
“Pray always, that you may come off conqueror…” (Doctrine and Covenants 10:5)
That doesn’t mean we have to be running at full spiritual speed all the time. It just means staying connected, especially before the weeds, which are truly feedback, get out of hand.
A two-minute midday reset (not heroic—just repeatable)
When I feel that midday wave of overwhelm, here’s my go-to “weed spray”:
Pause + get still (10 seconds):
“Be still, and know that I am God…” (Psalm 46:10)
Short prayer + gratitude (20 seconds):
“In every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving…” (Philippians 4:6)
Then trust the promise:
“And the peace of God… shall keep your hearts and minds…” (Philippians 4:7)
Hand the load to the Lord (10 seconds):
“Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee…” (Psalm 55:22)
Pick the next small thing (60 seconds): One email. One call. One simple task. Don’t try to tackle the whole day at once. If midday overwhelm returns, I remind myself that weeds in life are feedback, not a sign I’m failing.
God doesn’t clear the weeds “all at once.”
One of the most hopeful lines in Jacob 5 is that the master doesn’t demand instant, total cleanup:
“Ye shall not clear away the bad thereof all at once…” (Jacob 5:65)
That’s the Lord reminding us that growth is a process. He knows our pace, our capacity, and that real change takes time. So remember: weeds are feedback, not failure.
And my favorite part:
“The servants did go and labor… and the Lord of the vineyard labored also with them…” (Jacob 5:72)
So when weeds pop up—whether in your yard or in your mind—don’t take it as a sign you’re failing. It just means you’re alive, growing, and still in need of a little ongoing care. The Master of the vineyard is the kind of God who rolls up His sleeves and works right alongside you. In the end, weeds in life always serve as feedback, proving that you’re still learning and moving forward.
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